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LinkedIn·2026-06-13·1 min read

The conversation never happened.

Not because there was nothing to say. Because saying it was uncomfortable. The employee had been performing. Delivering. Asking the right questions about what…

Not because there was nothing to say. Because saying it was uncomfortable.

The employee had been performing. Delivering. Asking the right questions about what was next. And the leader had been doing what leaders do when they do not have a good answer.

Staying busy. Staying vague. Letting the silence imply that things were moving in the right direction.

They were not.

Somewhere above that leader, a conversation had not happened either. The case had not been made strongly enough. The advocacy had been quiet, if it happened at all. And rather than own that with the person who deserved to know, the leader chose the path that felt easier in the moment.

Say nothing. Hope it resolves. Wait for a better time.

The employee did what people do when the signals stop making sense. They started reading everything else. The tone of a one-on-one. Who got invited to what meeting. How their name came up, or did not come up, in conversations they were not in.

They were not paranoid. They were perceptive. And what they were perceiving was accurate.

By the time the employee saw the writing on the wall, the leader had already lost them. Not to a competitor. Not to a better offer. To the slow accumulation of silence that answered every question they were never given the chance to ask directly.

The conversation that finally happened was not a conversation. It was a confirmation.

And the one that never happened, the one that could have changed the outcome, was not about the promotion at all.

It was about whether this leader was willing to go to bat for them.

They found out.


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Joseph Diele

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35 years in tech — from engineer to director to founder. Joe helps CEOs, CTOs, and VPs close the gap between technical expertise and people leadership.

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